Toxic people do exist, and some of us are attracted to these personalities This could be due to having received less than “good enough” parenting as a child or childhood trauma. We use “good enough” parenting, because there is no such thing as perfect parenting, only good enough.
Also contrary to common believe, sometimes even healthy people can become toxic for us. This can happen for a variety of reasons – the main reason being that when two people with less than perfect boundaries meet, even when they have good intentions and do not have a Cluster B personality, it is easy to slide in unhealthy behaviour that repeatedly breaches the boundaries of one of them.
This is an insightful video by Teal Swan, on why we keep attracting the same type of person.
If you looked this test up, or clicked on a link that led you here, you probably know that you tend to be attracted to toxic partners, and want to make sure you are not doing the same mistake; or maybe you just feel that something is off, and you want to confirm if its just your fears or reality.
For a newbie this test, I hope, will be helpful and enlightening.
For others, who have had previous experiences with toxic people, I am so sorry you had to go through that, and that you are fearing it is happening again. But if it’s really what you fear, I hope you feel empowered in knowing, that this time you became aware of it earlier on in the relationship.
It means you have become more attuned to what you want and do not want in your life.
I also hope you will find the courage to leave. If not now, in the near future, as more facts continue to confirm what this test will undoubtedly show you.
Trust Your Gut Feeling
However, my biggest hope is that this test will give you another gift – that of starting to trust your intuition. If you came here because you felt that something was missing, or just not right, I can already tell you that it probably is. I hope that after this test you start trusting your gut feeling more.
Don’t worry if you sometimes doubt it. We all do. We start wondering whether its our over-thinking mind, or our past hurts and fears that are talking. But the more you listen to your intuition, the stronger it gets; and the more you start to learn how intuition feels different from fear.
You can download the free test below. This list comes from a life long study of the subject, my own life’ experiences, and corroborated by the experiences of my clients.
If you are still in doubt after completing the test, go to my article The Only Full-Proof Red Flag.
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